mental health, Mindfulness, Uncategorized, wellness

Love It Or Hate It

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I’m talking about my relationship with social media. Ironically, I’m now sharing this article via those platforms, but I just wanted to express my thoughts and feelings about them since launching my business.

Let me start with the positives. I love how it connects me with people who I just don’t get to see anymore. Some days I feel more connected than ever. Especially when I hear about new babies, engagements, career changes and basically any great moment in someone’s life. It lights me up inside. I’m all for sharing articles and videos that challenge the way society is, or help us to make sense of the world we live in today. I love that I have connected with more like minded businesses since I started and it’s opened doors that I would have never thought possible. The downside? Well, where do I start?

I was never a big user of social media before I launched my business. I was more of a quiet background creep. I would still scroll through every day and hit “like” on people’s posts, but was too shy to write or post anything myself. I think I’m over that whole phase now, but what I still struggle to understand, is how fickle the world of Instagram can be and how it’s existence sometimes does not resonate with the values of my business.

I couldn’t understand why people buy followers, follow you for a follow back, then drop you like a hot potato the next day and you’re left following all these people and you don’t know why. Did I mention follow? It’s like a fake currency that we trade with and your worth is based on how many people follow you, how many likes and comments you get on a post and how amazing your life “appears” to look. Don’t get me wrong, social media is a great tool for loads of businesses and creates a sense of community among many, but we need to be asking ourselves if we are being truly honest and authentic with our communication.

At first, Instagram got me down and I felt like I was in another country, trying to speak the native tongue without a dictionary or a tourist guide. Then I realised something. Instagram does not define me and my business. It is purely another channel for me to get my messages out to the people who matter and resonate with my brand. My relationships with potential clients happen either over the phone or face to face, like in the old days. My currency is human connection and energy work. You can’t translate that solely with an image. I refuse to try and fit into the Instagram box of perfect feeds where all the colours and fonts match all the time and there are perfect pictures of a mug on a table with a magazine. That’s just not me. Kudos to the people who produce these beautiful works of art, as they truly are gorgeous to look at, but who am I kidding? I’ve never been that polished version of a human. If you come over to our place for dinner, you will see that all of our plates are chipped because of my clumsy nature and most days I can barely do my hair and make-up. That’s just me.

And those boyfriend shots where your man takes your hand and it looks like you’re just casually leading him, walking into the ocean/sunset/cliff, well my husband would rather the cat take those pictures than him.

So I put this challenge to you; let’s stop worrying if our feeds are Instagram worthy and let’s starting posting completely and utterly from the heart. It doesn’t matter how many likes or comments we get, or how we look when we post. If we feel compelled to put something up because we love it, then do it. We need to stop comparing our lives to the strangers on Instagram and start sharing all of who we are, warts and all (I mean if you have a wart I probably wouldn’t take a picture of it but you catch my drift). Love and share your life through YOUR eyes, not through the manufactured lens of who social media says we SHOULD be.

How do you show up in the world of social media and is it really who you are?

Mindfulness, Uncategorized, wellness

Winter Comes and Motivation Goes

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It’s day four of our Aussie winter, but I already started saying goodbye to some healthy habits last month, as the cold came in. Waking up at 5am for the gym? FORGET IT. I’m too cold, too tired and feel like a bear going into hibernation. It was also my first month juggling part time work and the business, so meals have just been whatever we can get our hands on, plus a few cheeky orders from menulog and uber eats!

And there it is, I can feel you checking to see who has written this; “Hang on, this chick is a life coach right?” I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again… I am not perfect, nor do I claim to be. What I do know is that the changes over the last month have taught me to go easy on myself.

My priority has been to build the business and put my head down into some serious work. The results? I may not look as bronzed and healthy as I did in my website pics, but I’ve met some amazing clients. Every time they walk out of my office, I feel like my heart is going to explode with joy. Too mooshy for some of you? Well, it’s the truth and if I have to go easy on my strict health routine for this period of time in my life, then so be it.

I’m not saying to throw it all away when winter strikes and work takes more hours of the day than usual. What I do want to encourage people to think about is the four seasons. Not only does this happen with weather but is inside of us and effects every aspect of our lives. Right now, my body is in full on winter mode. Apart from the hairy legs and unmanicured toes, this means that I give myself permission to sleep more, eat more and be indoors more than usual. If I didn’t go to the gym this week, it’s ok. For me it’s more important that I’m moving. This could mean I go for a walk, do a yoga class or just a few stretches on some days. If your body wants to slow down let it. I mean, don’t go full sloth for 3 months, but also don’t put massive rules and restrictions on yourself.

What you can do is take your vitamins and stay away from sick people, Better yet, if you are the person who happens to get sick? STAY HOME. Don’t be a hero and go into the office. Give your body time to rest and also give others a chance to stay well.

This time of year reminds me of having a nice red wine by the fire in a pub, or sitting under a thick fleece blanket excited to watch Game of Thrones (can’t wait for the final series next year!) Just like the seasons, we can’t expect ourselves to be sunshine all the time. We need the winter to appreciate the summer and vice versa. Remember, be gentle on yourself and enjoy the hibernation while you can.