Recently I’ve been spending all my waking hours on the business and looking at ways to learn more, do more, see more etc; but the most important thing that I forgot to do was check in with myself.
On the weekend I battled through a nasty head cold with the realisation that I was physically and mentally depleted. Now you’re probably thinking – “Mel aren’t you a Life Coach? You should know what to do with this kind of thing”. The truth is, even people who help others need people to nudge them in the right direction sometimes. I have great mentors in my life who keep me on track and remind me, that in order to be of service to others, I need to be ok with myself first. This applies to everyone in all aspects of life. Whether you’re a CEO, a working or stay at home parent, a student, or all of those things; check in with YOU each day, even if it’s for 5 minutes. Ask yourself things like; How do I feel today? Am I in the right frame of mind to have this conversation? Is there anything I could be doing differently to result in a better outcome? What haven’t I done today that I know I should do, to feel good?
The goal isn’t to be this perfect person who always has their stuff under control, let’s be real here. All you are trying to do by asking these questions, is make life easier for yourself and those around you. Unfortunately, the people who get hit the hardest when we aren’t being the best version of ourselves, are our loved ones. We hold it together in the workplace and for our friends, then unleash the beast when we get home, while we unload the dishwasher and decide that someone is going to cop it for not stacking it properly! Sound familiar?
So how do you find those 5 minutes a day to check in? My first answer is meditation, but not in the traditional sense. Sure, it’s great to have the luxury of sitting in a quiet room with candles and incense while you sit on a magic carpet and try to leave your body for an hour, but a lot of people tune out when the words “mindfulness” and “being present” are mentioned. My simple answer for those in the thick of it? Talk to yourself in the car, in the shower, at a café, at the gym, in the garden, wherever that place is by yourself; because that my friends, IS meditation and so crucial for your happiness and being the best version of you.